In a sunny Sunday when I was en route to a shopping centre, behind me there were a young mother embracing her four year old son. I accidentally eavesdropped their conversation, and because I think it’s important, I’m sharing the story through this article.
What surprised me the most was when the mother asked her child,
“What do you want to eat later? Do you want… (a few brands of fast food chain stores) …?”
The kid answered, “I don’t want that.”
Then, the mother asked again, “What do you want to eat then?”
“No, I don’t want to eat.”
“Why not? Let’s eat hamburger then…”
What touched my heart the most is… A mother, whenever and wherever she is, she’ll always make sure whether her children are okay; whether they are hungry or whether they are in need of something. The love of a mother makes her worry, makes her try to give her children anything they’d ask for, anything they like, what she thinks her children would like, or what she feels the best for her children.
But sometimes, parents or a Mother may forget:
1. If the children are not hungry, there is no need to force them to eat. Subconsciously, a child understands enough about his or her own physical body. If they are hungry, they can ask for food or show their hunger to us.
2. The most important thing about food for our children is what’s best and healthy for them, not what’s easy – just so they can increase their appetite or at least they can eat something. This can be practiced by forming habits and giving examples by the parents themselves.
3. You keep asking your children to eat junk food in this era?? Helloooo….?!?!?! For parents, let’s enrich yourself with various information about what’s good and not so good for your children. Oftentimes, it is not easy to form good habits, but remember that our dietary habit can be inherited to our children. So if we want our children to have healthy dietary habit and healthy life, let’s start from our own selves. Educate your children well by being a good role model.
Most parents may have lived in a “difficult” time, when the economy was difficult, the family state was poor and they could only eat very little back then. Now that they can afford better lifestyles, parents tend to shower their love to their children quite overwhelmingly and it is assumed as the best way to educate their children. For example, parents easily give (permission to) their children to have junk food, money, gadget, their own vehicle, domestic helper, etc.
Honestly, I come from a generation where eating chemically injected fried chicken is common, because back then there was not much information telling us which is healthy and which is not. And now my parents still regret it: why didn’t they know about this earlier? Thankfully, I am lucky enough to now get the chance to be a vegetarian since more or less six years ago.
For parents out there, these days you are exposed to plenty of information. From newspapers, books, bulletins and internet; we can find information about how to better educate our children from those media. Oftentimes we know which is good and which is not, we just need the guts to do what we’re naturally supposed to do. The future of our children and of ourselves are in our hands now. If it’s not us who decide, who will then? I hope this real-life story can remind us to always and always choose the best for our children.
In my line of work, I found many cases where parents don’t have many clues on how to educate their children and how to interact with their children. Or parents who actually know what’s best for their children, but they don’t have enough strength and courage to be good role models. For example, they know very well that toddlers are not supposed to be heavily exposed to playing with gadgets, but parents can’t help it. They let their children play with their gadgets because it helps to make them calm. Sure, to start something good you need commitment, discipline, and it takes time. But if it’s not us who’s going to initiate the good habits, who will? Do you want these bad habits to be a culture that you inherited to your children and grandchildren? And you still dare to say that you love your children…???
Parents and children are individuals who are growing, and growing is not easy and often painful. No wonder on its process, even in the name of love, parents and children often hurt each other. Either you are a parent or a child, if you need help or support to get the best solution on your family situation, you can contact me here. Thank you for reading and see you soon!
Love and light,
Amelia is a Quantum Healing Practitioner and Intuitive Coach. Her goal is to help you find out who you truly are and why you are here, and therefore, support you to live yourself as the true you – the best version of yourself. She does that by giving you tools that you can immediately apply to improve your life, your relationship, your career, your health and many more than you can possibly dreamed of by incorporating methods such as past life regression, hypnotherapy, chakra wisdom healing, clearing, card reading, life coaching and meditation. Now, she serves through one-on-one therapies and coaching, and also offline and online classes, workshops and retreats. She regularly shares her passion through the newsletters that you can subscribe for free at ameliadevina.com. You can contact Amelia at email@example.com or her Facebook page and her instagram/ twitter @ameliadevina777.