There are no bad persons; there are only teachers in disguise



Let’s call her Mary. Raised by a dominant and ill-tempered mother, Mary unconsciously inherited the character and habit of her mother who always wants to be in control in her relationships. Failed twice in her marriages, Mary got cheated by her ex-husbands and also her previous boyfriends. Not only being cheated on, they even owed her – hundreds of millions rupiah (equal to thousands of US dollars).


When I met Mary, she felt stuck in her career. She has worked for twenty years, but she owns nothing much. Several times tried her luck on business, but they ended up in conflicts and she had to stop in the middle of it. She hated her abusive mother. She hated her father who she considered weak. She hated her two ex-husbands, their families, and she felt helpless towards herself.


But my Quantum Healing session with Mary has become one of the most precious and unforgettable experiences I’ve ever had in my life. I was so overwhelmed and deeply touched by it.


After entering the regression process and receiving lessons from some of her previous lifetimes, we arrived in a past life where Mary was the son of one of the King’s mistresses in Mataram Kingdom, Indonesia. At the time, life in the kingdom was so prosperous and both of Mary’s parents spoiled her much – Mary was a male at that time.


He wasted money in self-indulgence, he broke women’s hearts. A manwhore. He hurt other people’s feelings. Never cared about others, he must get what he wanted. At that time, there was also a son of the king from other neighboring kingdom who was really jealous of Mary. He was not as handsome and charming. And since they were young until they were old, they always fought for women, fought for influences, fought for power.


Just like in every kingdom, in this Mataram kingdom there also lived a spiritual teacher. Since Mary was young, his teacher always advised Mary to change his habits and not to carelessly hurt people anymore. But just like Mary – and just like anyone of us –


when we are in our best conditions, who would want to be told to change, to be tolerable and to say the least, fathoming spirituality??


After Mary was connected with her Higher Self, we were astonished by everything conveyed. Turns out, the son of the king from the other kingdom is Mary’s mother now. And what made me deeply touched is, Mary’s spiritual teacher back then is now Mary’s latest ex-husband.


Spiritual teachers can indeed love us and advise us, but what they can do is fairly limited sometimes. Let alone Mary at that time, even now we can also get bored, negligent and lazy to train and practice the teachings. A spiritual teacher often can only deliver the theory, but without practice, how could we grow.


In Mary’s situation, her spiritual teacher was willing to have a “demotion”, he is willing to become the wrong one so that Mary can learn to be right. If it’s only a spiritual teacher coming to teach her the lessons all over again, Mary can just avoid the person easily, like she was before. But if it’s her own husband, automatically there’s bigger feeling involved and she will feel the pain at a much larger scale. Whether she wants it or not, the lessons get thrown at her face and they must be faced; Mary can’t run away anymore.



there are no bad persons; there are only teachers in disguise.


It is quite possible now that the people who we think have hurt us were our mothers or spiritual teachers in previous lifetimes. This time, in order for us to learn, they take the roles as the ones who hurt us. Now that we have realized about this, isn’t it true how Buddha said that life and suffering are mere illusion? And that life on Earth is a game and lesson we play?


Afterwards, I invited Mary to forgive, apologize and thank her Mum and Dad, both of her ex-husbands, their families, and also her own self in all its manifestations. As soon as she was awake from the session, I was so glad to see her with such full spirit, her heart felt so relieved, and even her body felt so much lighter afterwards. And what most important was, her hatred and resentment have turned into caring, compassion, and what’s left now is the desire to protect and to love. How beautiful this is!





So, just like me and just like Mary here who has learned to forgive and then feel relieved, I invite all of us to open our eyes and open our hearts through this story. Spiritual teachers are always there to advise us and love us, but these “life gurus” who appear to be mean and hurting are actually the great teachers who make us practice, grow wiser and more loving each day, and become more mature in our soul evolution. I bow respectfully and gratefully for their existence.


Once again, dear one, there are no bad persons; there are only teachers in disguise. I hope through this story you don’t need to wait any longer. Surrender, forgive and let go. Afterwards, just smile because now you have understood one thing. That everything is just a game, everything is a lesson and everything is perfect as it is.


If you’re struggling to forgive others, or even yourself, and you need help, you can always contact me here and we will find the way out together.


Thank you for reading and I hope this article can bring a good and beautiful change into your life. And… you don’t want to keep something so good just to yourself, right? Share this article to all your friends to show them that you care. Thanks again and I’ll see you soon!


Love and light,







Amelia is a Quantum Healing Practitioner and Intuitive Coach. Her goal is to help you find out who you truly are and why you are here, and therefore, support you to live yourself as the true you – the best version of yourself. She does that by giving you tools that you can immediately apply to improve your life, your relationship, your career, your health and many more than you can possibly dreamed of by incorporating methods such as past life regression, hypnotherapy, chakra wisdom healing, clearing, card reading, life coaching and meditation. Now, she serves through one-on-one therapies and coaching, and also offline and online classes, workshops and retreats. She regularly shares her passion through the newsletters that you can subscribe for free at You can contact Amelia at or her Facebook page and her instagram/ twitter @ameliadevina777.

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