I often observe and meet many Earth Angels who feel difficult to say ‘no’; including myself before. Earth Angel, who is often called as a lightworker, is a part of divine soul who becomes human with special mission to spread love and kindness. No wonder, for an Earth Angel, the activity of giving becomes so sacred and sometimes, full of sacrifices. It feels difficult to refuse to help.
I used to be the same way too. But overtime, I learn that accepting is no less sacred than giving. I learn that loving myself and prioritizing my happiness at the forefront is as important as sharing love to other people. It’s absolutely not selfish and not embarrassing, it’s actually very important and very noble. When our own self is whole, intact, and balanced, then we can share to others from our abundance.
Are you one of them who always say ‘yes’? Do you often feel like you are disrespecting people if you say ‘no’? Do you always want to impress people and make them happy? Stop thinking that it is your job to keep people being happy and satisfied.
I want you to know; you are not responsible for others’ feelings, they are the ones who have to control their own feelings. You are allowed to say ‘no’, you are allowed to end things if you feel like you can’t do it anymore. You don’t owe anything to anyone to make you feel trapped and miserable.
That’s why, from now on I want to encourage you to love yourself more. There are many reasons why you need to learn to say ‘no’ – not only for yourself, but also for them who ask help from you. Several reasons below might open up your mind.
1. You make people depend on you
If you keep saying ‘yes’ to them, it means you spoil them. And because you can’t say ‘no’, they will keep making you say ‘yes’ even more. They will be dependant on you and you don’t want that to happen, do you? If you really love them, you must teach them to be responsible for their feelings and their own lives’ choices.
2. You make yourself look weak
You may think that by giving, it makes you feel powerful and strong. And by not being able to help, it makes you feel bad and weak. Whereas, what happens is the opposite. Not being able to say ‘no’ makes you look weak. People who acknowledge their needs and appreciate themselves are those who are strong. They have principles and know where they stand.
3. You let people take advantage of you
You may not feel so, but if you keep saying ‘yes’, there’s a chance they will take you for granted. I’m not saying for you to be ignorant, but if you’re in a position you don’t like, you are allowed to leave. You’re allowed to leave someone you love if they’re treating you poorly. You’re allowed to put yourself first and you’re allowed to walk away when you’ve tried over and over again but nothing’s changed.
4. It makes you blame yourself
Don’t beat yourself too hard on something you have no control over. If they can’t be happy with your decision, it’s their business to worry, not yours. You are allowed to chill out. Stop making everything difficult for you. World is not going to collapse if you say ‘no’ once in a while.
5. It makes you doubt yourself
You start doubting yourself on anything you do. You start thinking if what you are doing is affecting them. Even if you say ‘no’, you doubt yourself too because you are not happy with your decision. Start making decision not only based on people’s happiness, but yours, too.
6. They are not the only ones who are dependant
You are also getting dependant on them. You keep checking if they will ask something from you. You will try to match your schedules with them so that you’ll always be available when they need you. Try to think again, is this healthy for you?
So, are you one of them who feel difficult to say ‘no’? Until when do you have to let your happiness be a second option? Until when do you let your health and mental at stake? Think again about what we have discussed above and start making a decision. Earth Angels live with many challenges and they need to hold on to their life’s mission so that their life paths as humans feel meaningful and complete. But, Earth Angel, if you feel tired and helpless, how can you help other people and live your mission?
I hope this article can remind you to keep loving yourself, and afterwards, spread the abundance you have got to as many people as you can. Thank you and I’ll see you soon!
Love and light,
PS: If you know some people who also have a hard time saying ‘no’, you can forward this articel to them. I’m sure they’ll appreciate you. Help them to help themselves to grow.
Amelia is a Quantum Healing Practitioner and Intuitive Coach. Her goal is to help you find out who you truly are and why you are here, and therefore, support you to live yourself as the true you – the best version of yourself. She does that by giving you tools that you can immediately apply to improve your life, your relationship, your career, your health and many more than you can possibly dreamed of by incorporating methods such as past life regression, hypnotherapy, chakra wisdom healing, clearing, card reading, life coaching and meditation. Now, she serves through one-on-one therapies and coaching, and also offline and online classes, workshops and retreats. She regularly shares her passion through the newsletters that you can subscribe for free at ameliadevina.com. You can contact Amelia at firstname.lastname@example.org or her Facebook page and her instagram/ twitter @ameliadevina777.