Last Tuesday, on October 18, I felt like the luckiest person on Earth because I got the chance to interview a world class spiritual guru, Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche. Successfully healed himself from a panic attack through meditation, Mingyur Rinpoche shares the goodness of meditation and the importance of living in awareness through his ‘Tergar’ meditation community and the best-selling books he wrote, including The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness.
In 2002, Mingyur Rinpoche and a handful of other long-term meditators were invited to the Waisman Laboratory for Brain Imaging and Behavior at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, where Richard Davidson, Antoine Lutz, and other scientists examined the effects of meditation on the brains of advanced meditators. The results of this groundbreaking research were reported in many of the world’s most widely read publications, including National Geographic and Time. He is said to be the happiest man in the world.
Coming to Surabaya and Jakarta to share both in public talks and meditation classes, I fall in love with him instantaneously the moment I got to listen to him talk. He is very very humorous, humble, relaxed, and at the same time, also very smart, wise, and compassionate. The night before the interview, I felt like a high school girl preparing for a date… discussing with my friend on what to wear, the make up, what should I do with my hair… lol 🙂 Thank you so much Sutar Soemitro and Buddhazine for making this come true..!
Among the ten questions prepared, there were eight that was answered by Mingyur Rinpoche due to the time restrictions. And there is this one important question and answer that I received (and a very personal one actually), it’s so beautiful and enlightening I’d have to share with you here.
A: Nowadays, there are more and more people who don’t believe in marriage institution anymore. Young people choose to get married late, they don’t want to have children and the married couples get divorces so easily. What’s your comment on this? Is there any possibility that we could have a happily ever after married life?
R: That’s impossible (big grin on his face)
A: (also showing my big grin) So, what advice you could give us on this?
R: We are often get disappointed in a relationship because we have expectations on our partner. We want them to be perfect and we cannot accept their flaws. We want things to go our way and cannot change. This is impossible and it causes us suffering.
A: Okay, so we actually have to have the right mindset before we set into a relationship or a marriage, right? To accept the flaws of our partner and the change itself. And to commit to grow together.
R: Yes, grow together. Let’s imagine… We are going surfing because of the wave. When there is wave, we can then surf. We are even looking for it. And it’s also like the stock market. Only because there are ups and downs, then we can make money from it. We can choose to be a smart player. And it’s the same with relationships. We can decide to ride along with the wave and gain something from it.
A: (in awe of enlightenment)
Without having to add much, I know we can all relate and gain wisdom from this conversation.
Having to go through the ups and downs in a relationship is very natural. Neglecting and not accepting the fact that life is filled with ups and downs by nature is what causing us suffering. Accepting, playing, and receiving its treasures is what causing the relationship to last and flourish.
I am far from perfect; I have my strengths and flaws. And I decide to be the smart player; to dance in accordance with the wave, with the ups and downs of living life with a partner. And I have, am, and would receive miracles from all these movements. And so is my prayer to you and to all sentient beings.
Thank you so much for reading. Thank you for sharing this happiness with me. Would you like to watch the full video of this interview? Stay tune to see when it’s released in Buddhazine.
Ride along with the wave, my friend. Ride along! And I’ll see you on my way…
Love and light,
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